I did not realize how big a role hair plays in my everyday life, partly because of where I live and with whom I interact. The majority of my life has been centered with people that look like me. I went to schools that were predominately black, my family is black, and as of lately most of my co-workers were black or some type of minority. I was lacking experience with cultural diversity. I literally chose my alma mater, a predominantly white private liberal arts school, mostly because I wanted a chance to experience diversity. I wanted to be in a place that made me uncomfortable, because true growth lies outside of your comfort zone. Even still, I only had a handful of friends and only one or two were white. I worked three jobs, was in three different organizations for my major and a member of a historically black sorority. I rarely had time to know any other races on a personal level. For those reasons, I was aware of the black hair problem but not a prominent member in the fight.
So what is the black hair problem?
Continue reading What’s the Deal with Black Hair?
I have a few youtube pages I swear by! I will post some videos I used, pay attention to the accounts and subscribe to them!
This is how I twist my hair. Regardless of the direction, the spacing or the curler I can use at the end I always section off and twist my hair. I have found braid outs to be not as effective on my hair. I don’t have a good grip and it fluffs more than curls. The sectioning is crucial as it helps my hair dry faster and majorly reduces frizz when I undo the twists.
Who I follow (click their names to see their youtube channels):Natural Neiicey
is my hair crush. I love her so much and follow her on Insta. Mary K
is so innovative and has sold me on trying crochet braids with Kanekalon hair… one day. Naptural85
has beautiful hair! I absolutely love her beautiful spirit and her daughter is adorable! Tiffany Nichols
has great protective styles. Breana Rutter
is where you want to go to believe you can do any hairstyle. She is so easy to follow and has inspired to try new things with my hair head on!Fusions of Culture
is an African Queen! On top of having beautiful hair, I could listen to her accent all day. I check her hair vids and her makeup vids because her face is always beat for the gawds!Cassandre Beccai
is my hair Shero, hands down. She is what I hope to be between her hair, her beautiful family and beautiful spirit, I have been blessed to know her page.
Hope you find your own hair inspirations, sheros and tips! Know somebody I should be following? Comment it below!
This user is in no way a professional or licenced beautician. She is just a girl with an afro and healthy hair sharing what she’s learned so far.
1. WATER is your best friend. I REPEAT: WATER IS YOUR BEST FRIEND
- I mist my hair every morning with water mixed with aloe vera juice. I never manipulate my hair in any way without some type of moisture unless my hair is straightened. Your hair needs water. It prevents breakage! I am not endorsing daily washing of your hair but you need to put some water and oils on your hair daily. However much you use is your choice!
2. Your hair has PERSONALITY!
- Even if you big chop if you ever had a perm, your hair texture will not fully revert until after a minimum of one year. It is also important to remember your hair is your hair and what works for others may not work for you. What you use while you had a perm, or transitioning may not work for you when you’re completely natural. Know your hair, learn your hair and pay attention to your hair. Nobody can tell you more about your hair than you can after you learn it!
3. Wash your hair AS NEEDED
- I know naturalistas that wash their hair every other day, me personally I wash my hair every two weeks, sometimes three! My hair products are light and my hair flourishes in ultimate moisture. Do what works for you!
4. You cannot schedule trims
- I go to a professional stylist who specializes in natural hair. She is so thorough with my hair and I wholeheartedly trust her advice. She explained that the purpose of a trim is to cut off dead ends, that is it’s sole purpose. If you do not have dead ends, there is no reason for a trim. My stylist trims my hair AS NEEDED! i used to press her about getting scheduled trims and she educated me on how trims work. My hair is very healthy and so far I get trims about twice a year. That is how much my hair needs. If you trim when necessary and not by obligation, you retain more length. Be mindful of stylists that aren’t concerned with your complete hair health!
5. Try, Try, and Try Again
- Once you cross the river to natural queendom, nothing will be the same. When you press your hair, it will not operate the same. A wet set will not be the same. No twist out will ever be the same. EMBRACE THAT! You’re going to feel like it’s not right because your expectations are based on chemically relaxed hair. Often when we take steps in a new direction we look around to see if we’re doing it right. Trust me when I say, “the right way is your way.” Only you can be you, flaws and all darling. So be you!
6. Look at the INGREDIENTS
- The first ingredient in all products you use in your hair should be WATER. Never use anything with sulfate. It strips your hair and ultimately dries out your hair and your scalp! Be mindful for glycerin, olive oil, shea butter included in products as well. They’re great!
7. Breakage vs Shedding
- Know the difference! Hair sheds. That’s normal. You will learn your hair. What seems like a lot is often a little once you uncoil the strand. Be mindful of that.
8. Hot oil treatments are the campbell soups in hair
- According to dermatologists hot oil treatments increase the elasticity in your hair. So basically the fountain of youth but for your hair. #win
9. BE PATIENT
- Your hair is coarser not stronger. Don’t handle it rougher. Handle with care. Always with care! Work from the ends up to the roots. Never try to start from the root down. Big fros are attainable! You will one day have a fluffy pillow on your head that others envy. Just be patient. Healthy hair grows even though it may not seem like it to you. I recommend taking hair update pictures. However, I do not recommend straightening your hair. I recommend trying to straighten your hair no more than twice a year.
10. Happy Hair Thoughts
- Hair is much like life. It flourishes with HAPPY THOUGHTS. Do not desecrate your crown with false ideas. You are beautiful. You are created fearfully and wonderfully the way God wanted you to be. Do not forget that your hair is exactly how it’s supposed to be, as you learn how to manage and LOVE your hair. As soon as I accepted nothing would ever be the same, I was completely liberated. Cutting my hair made me more free and confident in myself! Suddenly I wasn’t afraid of the rain, I was dancing in it. Suddenly my hair was fully of life not lifeless and oily against my head. My crown became just that, a crown and something I was proud of. Your crown will become the same. Just know you are not aloe. Embrace your natural community!
In two years I have convinced, encouraged and assisted several women in going natural. I get many questions on how to help women with their hair. Sometimes they just don’t have the right information. Sometimes they are confused and most time they’ are just not satisfied, so I am here to help. Your Shero to the rescue. When I am helping a fellow naturalista I always ask:
1. What’s your hair story?
- How long have you been natural? How did you go natural? Big chop or transitioning? Why did you go natural? How was your hair before (while permed)? What was your regime like then? This is important! I cannot assist in your present without knowing your past. Hair is like the body, it gives many red flags when something is wrong! It’s like going to the doctor without giving your medical history, you just dont do it!
2. What is your hair type?
- Many women are unaware that there are hair types! Your hair type is similar to us all being humans but having a certain ethnicity. Women with 2b hair will never know the woes women with 4b hair have. Similar to women with different skin color. Although one can explain it and one might even understand it, they will never know it firsthand. If you don’t know how to type your hair, here is a helpful article I used when I first went natural.
3. What are you doing now?
- Step one is the ghost of hair past. Now I need to know your present. What products do you currently use? What’s your regimen like now? Do you have dry scalp? Itchy scalp? How often do you wash your hair? Here’s a question you probably don’t know the answer to that can help you in several areas: how porous is your hair? Porosity has everything to do with your hair’s ability to absorb moisture. There are three types – low, average or high. I started with low porosity, struggled to get my hair moisturized. Now it’s average because I am very watchful of the pH levels in my hair by using aloe vera juice. Watch this video to learn how to test your hair’s porosity and why it may be that way. Knowing how porous your hair is dictates what you use in it, how often you use it and what steps you should take proactively for your hair’s future.
4. What are you going to do about it?
- Knowing the problem is important but more important is what are you going to do about it? if your hair is damage and screaming for help I am a strong advocate for cutting it off. Why? Because your hair will grow better without damaged hair pulling on the health of the hair at the roots. I believe damaged hair is like a weed to a flower, you should remove it before it chokes the life out of what’s there. Some people are ok with the very uphill battle to salvage damaged hair. If that’s you, put on your game face and do it! Either way, happy hair is a journey and you will not see results overnight. No rush!
Hope you learned something! Natural sheros stand up in the comments below. Did I miss anything? What got you to healthy hair?
I went natural in 2012. I made a bold BUT NECESSARY decision. Since I can remember I have struggled with my hair, it was thin, dry scalp but oily strands. I got perms at a very early age because my hair needed to be “more manageable.” When I went to college I realize how unprepared I was to deal with my hair. I kept trying but my scalp condition continued to worsen. When I had about eight bald spots the size of quarters I decided I would go natural. I stopped getting perms until my bald spots filled in and then big chopped. Although I didn’t cut it as short as I originally wanted to go, I had a major culture shock. No one in my sphere of influence was natural and most women in my family had short hair. The internet was my safe haven. Two years laters and my hair attracts all types of attention. “I love your hair!” “How do you do that?” “What do you use?” The natural community is always growing and I am ecstatic when I can convert another sister to embrace what God gave her. Even my mom said if she knew our hair could do this she would have gone natural too. Here are a few tips, tricks, products I use! If I can help just one, success my friends, success!
Hope this helps. P.S. Carol’s Daughter’s has a transitioning hair kit and word on the street is it’s good. I didn’t use it but it’s worth a try.
What I Use on My hair
- Coconut oil
- Aloe Vera Juice
- Carol’s Daughter Monoi Repairing Shampoo & Conditioner
- Sulfur 8 grease (When my scalp was suffering from severe dandruff)
On Rare Occasions I use:
- Pantene Curly conditioner
- Cantu Shea Butter Leave-in Conditioning Hair Repair Cream
- Peppermint oil, mixed with water (for my scalp, when I first transitioning my scalp was very itchy)
- Lisa’s Hair Elixir Restoring Hair Oil (Carol’s Daughters)