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Taxi Taxi

Take a taxi ride with me. To hail a taxi you need to wave your hand away from you as if you’re saying, “shew shew!” 
(Credit to Volunteer Andrew for the first vid.. mine was a the wrong direction again -_-)

The Refresher Weekly

I am constantly saying I am thankful for social media! Why? Because I get to meet and greet people from all over the world. I had the privilege of somehow coming across this young lady on my timeline and she is somebody you need to know! Not only is she ambitious and beautiful BUT SHE HAS THE TRUE ANSWER I HAVE BEEN WAITING ON! Meet Kailah Cameron, the creator and writer of refresherweekly.com!
What exactly is it?
I began planning for the Refresher in January of this year and actually made it public in March.The Refresher is an e-newsletter/blog that caters to Black women by bringing informative, empowering and transparent content directly to your email every Monday. We also, have a blog where topics that don’t fit into the newsletter are discussed.

What is your mission?
Our mission is to uplift the different facets of young, Black womanhood because we are burdened with stereotypes that heavily impact our daily lives. This generation of young, Black women are just movers and shakers; we are creators and entrepreneur; we are scientists and engineers- which I really want to highlight. However, some of us also suffer with depression, anxiety, perfectionism or procrastination, problems finding ourselves or finding our purpose! We suffer from misogynoir (Misogynoir refers to anti-black misogyny, where race and gender together are factors in the hatred of black women.), racism within the educational/ workplace and just a plethora of things that need to be addressed. My goal is for the Refresher to manifest a platform where Black women can be transparent about our issues, where we can grow together and support one another. To empower us to be unapologetically ourselves. No one understands us, quite like us. We control our narrative and I just want to inspire us to keep going because it is hard and on weeks when a young woman feels low or like she’s stuck, our goal is to be that sisterhood rooting for her. 

Why did you start this?
Womens’ rights are my passion and I just hope it radiates through the Refresher.

How do you compile the information or highlights in your weekly newspaper?
My content is derived mostly from my background in social justice. I’ve been active in my community as far as legislation and outreach so a lot of my content has a political undertone. However, through that I’ve met a lot of amazing Black women and network with them. I’ve had a business before where I mostly worked with Black women who now have thriving businesses and I want to include their accomplishments! And I through social media! I use social media heavily as well as word of mouth and personal contacts.

What’s your response to people to potential readers who aren’t black?
They’re welcome to read and subscribe. I actually am open to feminist circles allowing this platform to be welcomed into many of their spaces where they lack inclusivity and understanding of black women. In many of those circles they don’t understand our “humanness”, for lack of a better word. However this space is designed for Black women- so that won’t change. The content will remain for us, about us and by us.


What do you hope comes from this weekly subscription? 
Genuinely, I just hope it inspires young, Black women to keep going. We have so many adversaries, so just to be a weekly reminder of your strength, uniqueness, your wonder and ability. That Black excellence is more than just accolades and degrees, sometimes it’s just waking up in the morning. I hope it inspires someone to keep going knowing that she has a plethora of sisters rooting for her. Also, to eventually have a network of black professional women and continue building from there.

I think your passion is amazing. How long have you been doing this?
Thank you! You are so amazing! I actually launched my first newsletter last Monday! However I’ve been blogging for about a year now and decided I needed to blog with a purpose and start over.

Why should someone subscribe? 
I read that if you’re surrounded by five successful people you’ll be the sixth. Same for happiness and wealth. Therefore, I believe people should subscribe to the Refresher Weekly because of our plan to expose young, Black and ambitious millennial women to each other on a transparent medium. It’s ok here to be broken, to be stressed, uneasy or lost. Unlike many media facets, we focus on genuine content. By featuring successful Black women, along with their weekly struggles, as well as being a strong form of weekly encouragement and affirmations, we plan to manifest those circles.

Don’t take my word for it, GO! Check it out and SUBSCRIBE! You can always unsubscribe with a click of a button. Don’t let the idea of some unknown, stop you from tuning into some much needed encouragement. I can personally attest to the positivity of this young woman. Her knowledge and wisdom supercedes her age and I am grateful to have met her. Subscribing ain’t never hurt nobody, don’t get left behind in 2014. 2015 is all about supporting one another and saying what few refuse to do, “black girls rock!” and Refresher Weekly reminds me of that very fact every Monday. 😉 Link up with her @refresherweekly on IG, Facebook page coming soon!

Cultural Lesson – When You Grow Up

And now it’s time for Cultural Lessons with Nae, the part of the blog where Nae points out a cultural lesson…
What did you want to be when you were a child? What were some of the first things you conceived as achievable? At my preschool graduation, I have a video of me saying in front of the entire audience, what exactly I wanted to be one day. Since my last name is a W, I had the pleasure of going last AND closing the show with a bang. I said, “when I grow up I want to be a farmer, a piano, a doctor, a singer and a ballet.” Clearly, I was ambition and unaware of the words “pianist or ballerina.” Still, I was certain I could be all those things. I eventually learned that one must make one career decision in life.  I was to also learn that such ambition is taught, not a genetic instinct. In Nicaragua, asking a child what they want to be when they grow up will get you several blank stares. Of the two who might answer, they will say something along the lines of, “married” “owning my parents farm” or “a store owner”. Now, in America, being a store owner can be seen as quite ambitious, but not quite so here. Why? Because a store or (venda) as we call it, consists of a room, no bigger than a child’s bedroom, sometimes a master’s depending on the store filled with stacks of unorganized food, bags of beans on the ground and a cooler full of assorted drinks. There is a tendency to be pigeon holed immediately. The audacity to dream is quickly to put away here and that is why I am here. This is why Peace Corps, business sector is here. We are doing more than teaching children Entrepreneurship. We are teaching them that they don’t have to fit the stereotype of only 26.7% finish secondary education. We are showing them that it is important to apply to college. We are helping break the statistic of only 1 in every 100 student that enrolls in college finishes. We are encouraging them to dream. We say, “what about a nurse, doctor, lawyer, teacher? You don’t have to own a venda.” To those few who are interested, they have no idea how to become those things and we show them how. Entrepreneurship is so much more than owning your own business, it is daring to see the world in an entirely new perspective. It is coloring an entire forest blue, instead of green and imaging what a blue forest could do. It’s going against the grain because Nicaragua needs a generation of movers, shakers and doers. They don’t have to be the second poorest country in the Americas. They can choose to be better, but it starts with the youth. I am working hands on with 70% of the population (who are under the age of 30). The work will be continuous and is often difficult to break the binds of societal glass ceilings. BUT we can overcome, progress has already been made. This is the blessing in being one person, in a organization focused on change. World peace isn’t achieved by setting down every weapon of war, it’s conceived in the little things; like helping a boy graduate from college and become a doctor. I am happy I didn’t become the things I thought I wanted when I was 5. I am even more proud of the person I became, it’s nice to know my ambition as a child never waned. So what do you want to be when you grow up?

Know Thyself 

I read this on one of the best blogs and social media outlets I know: mediablackoutusa and thought it was worth sharing. (follow them):
7 Questions You Should Ask Yourself At The End Of Each Day!
Each day we have tons of inquiries — for our coworkers, our friends, our families. But do we ever ask ourselves any questions? If we don’t, we may be framing our own mindsets through someone else’s lens. Below are seven questions that will not only help you take a positive perspective on your day, but set up tomorrow for greater success.

  1. What did I learn today?
  2. How did I make others feel?
  3. What can I do better tomorrow? 
  4. What am I grateful for?
  5. How do I feel? 
  6. How much stress did I experience?
  7. What made me smile?

Why is this important? Too often we are excited to learn about others and willing to put in the work to establish strong connections, without giving ourselves the same justice. You are worth knowing. I would even go as far to say, you cannot truly know others without knowing self. Put in the work everyday, you’re worth it. Ask yourself these questions and decide if you like your answers. God bless!

365 Watch of the Future

Hey guys! I don’t know the creators personally but I try my best to invest in other believers! Especially ones I like. So check them out, it’s a watch that gives a bible verse daily! It’s a great way to practice memorization and stay mindful of Him. It’s a quick read and an Indigogo campaign. WIth less than a month left for funding but over 50% raised, they need our help! $40 books in and you’re guaranteed a free one sooooo please donate

The Revolution Will Not Be Televised…

Revolution (noun)-  a sudden, radical, or complete change
There is something amazing happening on the inside of me. I am changing and it’s for the better. I am right on the precipice of major change in my life and I have 0 fear. Several people in my life, inadvertently, have cast their doubt on me and tried to project their anxiety of traveling abroad over here. To them I say, “my bible says be anxious for nothing. I suggest you take a read, in case your version skipped that verse.” I just know my two years are going to change me to be unchangeable. You can’t see it now but there are so many things I have been called to do. I am ready to be in a place where my only option is to call on God. I also can’t wait for the fakers in my life to be exposed! Nicaragua is going to show me who is really supportive and pushing me towards the things of God. It will also show me the path of . I warn you now what God is about to do in my life cannot be predicted nor contained and by the time you realize what He has for me, it will be too late. My revolution will not be televised. Tomorrow, it’s about to get real. 

Be a Bird

Isaiah 40:31 But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.
It is usually offensive to tell a woman she’s a bird, but I have a new light for it today. God tells us to be like eagles.. want to know why? A female eagle tested her mate several times before she settles to have eaglets. How? She takes a stick and drops it in the air. The male eagle must catch it before it hits the ground. Then she finds a bigger rock and drops it from an even high height. The male must catch it. Then she finds an even bigger rock and drops it from an even high height. Again, the male must catch it before it hits the ground. She will do that repeatedly until she is sure he can handle the job and responsibilities of being a mate and a father. 

I say if even a bird does it, we should think twice before taking any man that shows us affection.This process keeps us strong in the faith. You won’t grow weary knowing that you are weeding out the pretenders. This is the process of waiting for the one. There is only one man for me. Of course it’s going to get frustrating when many pursue you AND you entertain them. Men have changed the game by making us feel guilty for making it hard to talk to us. It is not supposed to be easy! That’s why men don’t stick around. They said they want it easy but they lie. The women they marry are virgins and made themselves very hard to get. Men are looking for something different. You can’t catch anybody’s eye looking like everybody else. Try covering up and making it work to get your number. Try waiting for someone who will CONSISTENTLY pursue. Trust that there is one who will work for you AND that you’re worth the work. 

Are you trigonometry or basic addition? For every complex math equation there is a mathematician that looks forward to solving it. I know I want to be a bird and I don’t care how men take it. I have proved my worth or else you wouldn’t be chasing me, but you have not proved your worth to me. In the words of the famous Olivia Pope, “You want me? EARN ME!” I hope I see more lady birds around my way. 

You Were Unaware…

Since you were unaware here’s a small list of AWESOME things invented by my people:
List of Things Invented by Black People:

  • air conditioning unit: Frederick M. Jones; HELLO! Gotta stay cool
  • baby buggy: W.H. Richardson; taking care of family business from the beginning, making it easier on the mommas
  • cellular phone: Henry T. Sampson; The device in your hand rit’ na’ (Thank ya!)
  • door knob: O. Dorsey; I’m not even sure what they were doing before these!
  • electric lampbulb: Lewis Latimer; all you candle lighting people can say thank you right now. Less fires these days *wink*
  • elevator: Alexander Miles; going up on a Tuesday, thanking the Lord for options to stairs
  • fire extinguisher: T. Marshall; this is so necessary! Everybody has one in their place of business!
  • guitar: Robert F. Flemming, Jr.; giving us good feel, music tool essential. 
  • hair brush: Lydia O. Newman; whew! where would waves be without you ma’am?
  • lantern: Michael C. Harvey; another savor in light over candle 
  • lawn mower: L. A. Burr; your grass is appreciative
  • lock: W. A. Martin; protecting the goods, thank you!
  • motor: Frederick M. Jones; this is used in almost ever electrical device so thank you Sir!
  • peanut butter: George Washington Carver; 1896
  • pencil sharpener: J. L. Love; pencils and eyebrows world wide thanks you!
  • refrigerator: J. Standard; every household has one!
  • stethoscope: Imhotep; Ancient Egypt; Doc McStuffins thanks ya.
  • stove: T. A. Carrington; again, where would you be without the black man 😉
  • straightening comb: Madam C. J. Walker; every black woman knows this lady’s name!
  • traffic light: Garrett Morgan; BET YOU DIDNT KNOW THIS ONE! 
  • typewriter: Burridge & Marshman; I personally and more grateful for this because his was the blue print for the device I am typing on today!

Amen black people! Black excellence everywhere, at all times, unawares. And if you don’t know, now you know. Any things you think I should have mentioned? I forget, tell me below! 

Are You the Quality You’re Asking for?

There is, in the religious community, a very popular saying. It is the idea or notion, “I am waiting on my Boaz” and while there is nothing wrong with such a statement I find most women saying the statement to be under an extreme misadvisory. I am here to rectify such statements. Hope you enjoy. Ruth was the real MVP. 
Yes, the scripture says that he who findeth a good woman findeth a good thing, implying a woman should be waiting for her husband. While you should be waiting its important to know HOW you should be waiting.
Lil’ background on Ruth. She was a Moabite. She and her sister Opah married to the Isrealitie sons of Emeiech, Mahlon and Chilion. Her father-in law, husband and brother in law died. Leaving a grieving and discouraged Naomi. Naomi said, “I’m going back to my homeland. I can’t stay here. I heard the land is doing much better now. So you two go back to your family with my blessings.”Now you know how a person offers you something and you decline to be polite? That was Opah. “No thanks mother. I shall stay with you.” Naomi said, GURL. Go home. You know you want to and ain’t nothing left for you.” So Opah said, “ALright if you’re sure” and hightailed it home. Ruth on the other hand declined all advances.

I. Ruth was loyal. (Ruth 1:16-17)
Ruth knew where her true alliances lie. It didnt matter that her husband had died. It mattered only that she made a vow of unity to her husband and his family and refused to go back on her word to that. 
So she and a grieving Naomi travel back to Israel. Naomi’s friends recognize her and she immediately says, “I am not who you think I am. Call me Mara for I am very bitter.” Ruth immediately goes to work, knowing her mother in law cannot. She also find out information about the man she was working for and brought the information back to her mother in law. 

2. Ruth was wise (Ruth 2:2)
She did not keep the information of her kins man to herself or try to get the man without her mother in laws help. She did not begrudge her mother in law, despite the very negative attitude Im sure Naomi had. (nobody wants to be around a bitter person)

Having shared all that she had, Ruth worked hard. 
3. Ruth was a hard-worker (Ruth 2:3, 17-18)
She worked hard in the community and in the fields. She set a standard for herself. She did not rely on her mother in laws connections for sustenance. She did not pity herself or her circumstances. 

Having distinguished herself as a hard worker and a whole woman Boaz noticed her. When he spoke to her she truthfully introduced herself and made it known she was his family lineage. Again, she told her mother in law of the things Boaz said. When Naomi heard all these things she told Ruth what to do to get Boaz’ attention. 

4. Ruth was obedient/Under authority (Ruth 3:1-6) 
Ruth did not argue or stray from the directions of her mother in law. She came to Boaz and made it known she was in need of a kinsman redeemer. (She wasnt too proud to say she needed help. She wasn’t playing games hoping Boaz could read her mind). When Boaz discovered her, he sought to do right by her and did not take advantage of her. He told her to go home as he settled the matter the proper way.

5. Ruth was patient (Ruth 3:18)
She followed the directions of Boaz and was patient for a decision in regards to her kinsman. She was under authority to make sure she did not shame her family name. She did not try to sneak down to the city gates to see what the decision of her kinsman would. She waited on the Lord. 

Her patience and hard work was honored. In the proper ritual, Boaz was granted Kinsmanship over Ruth and took her as his wife. Then she bore him a son.

6. Ruth was fruitful (Ruth 4:13,17-18)
The product of her hands and patience bore of fruitful life. She settled well into her new home, culture, religion and family. All her seeds bared good fruit. 

7. Ruth encouraged Naomi (Ruth 4:16-17)
Ruth did not let her circumstances or Naomis influence get her down. She lived a good life and as a result Naomi was encouraged. She was no longer bitter. She was able to see God had not left her and she was not living and unfulfilled life. 

8. Ruth was an example
Although I’m sure Ruth was scared as a foreigner and unsure what to do, her heart for others allowed Jesus to have his perfect work in her life. Boaz is a true representation of Jesus in this story. He redeemed us when no one else could. When it looked like we were out of luck, and noone wanted us, he redeemed us to life. It takes a true woman of God to realize she needs to be redeemed AND make herself redeemable.

9. Ruth was rewarded
Ruth was the Proverbs 31 woman before Proverbs was written. She lived a godly life and as a reward a book of the bible is written in her name. She got the man AND she was well praised in her family and community. Boaz was a good man and he did a great thing by redeeming Ruth and birthing the next in line for Jesus to come into the earth BUT I think it’s important to notice the book is in Ruth’s name. She was focused and waiting on the Lord. She was not waiting for Boaz. She was working to provide for herself and her mother. To be a good woman you need to be focused. You need to be conscious of the work the Lord has for you! While you are living your life and bearing fruit for the Lord a man will notice you in the fields. 

I think it’s important to note Ruth did notice Boaz. That’s to say you can notice the men around you. She told her mother in law about him and then in the counsel of wisdom she went to him. But that’s a special case. You should not throw yourself at the man you THINK is your Boaz. Ruth is my character example of the bible. I want to be most like her and Esther. I want to get to a place of waiting on the Lord and by default waiting for my Boaz. You’re not supposed to be just sitting twiddling your thumbs. Youre supposed to be working hard on being quality for the quality you want him to be. You attract what you are.. so be something good. Don’t be offended that others of less than quality approach you either. Thieves only rob from houses of value. What you should be focused on is working hard on hearing the Lords voice to only look up when Boaz is standing in front of you. Until then God bless sister queens!

Pat Yourself on The Back

Often times we are discouraged to not speak on our accomplishments which is understandable considering this generation loves to stunt, flex, pretend they are way better than they actually are. It is because of this extreme overcompensation of accolades that real achievement is not properly celebrated. So I say to you… toot your own horn today. I’m going to help you! You can pat yourself on the back if you’re alive! (nearly one million people die daily!) If you’ve graduated from HS, graduated from college, you’ve learned a trade, if you’re working your dream job, have experienced the beauty of having children, have grandchildren, just to name a few. You have accomplished more than your give yourself credit for. Be happy! 🙂